Reflecting on 2018
"The most important day is the day you decide you’re good enough for you. It’s the day you set yourself free.” ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
- Mindset of Greatness
It’s that time of year where everyone is planning their “new year new me”. Their New Years resolutions, goals, and their plans.
It’s that time where we get to reflect on the past year. The good. The bad. The ugly. And most importantly the amazing things that have happened!
I can honestly say that this year, I’ve learned more about myself...than I ever thought I would. This year was the year of leaping...without knowing if there would be anyone to catch me. There was no safety net...I jumped into the free fall and let the universe do with me what it will.
It was one of the scariest years of my life. But also one of the most fulfilling.
From leaving a full time job (that I hated), to starting my own business. From broken friendships, to brand new relationships. From soul searching, to self love. This year was my year of accepting change, and moving forward in my life with courage, confidence, and grace.
At the start of the year...I can’t lie...I was scared shitless. I gave up my full time position in an office willingly, to pursue my passion as a hair stylist. I had a handful of clients who were used to me coming to their homes, or them coming to mine. I had no idea how they’d react when I told them I had made the decision to join the team at Roots. Most reactions were fantastic, and so supportive. But there always have to be a few people who aren’t up for it. I was so nervous I’d never fill up my schedule! But as the weeks passed it seemed easier and easier.
As my schedule was filling up, I knew I had made the right decision. I get to make my own schedule, and I get to be my own boss. I’m doing what I love all day long! It doesn’t even feel like work! But...there was something missing....for years I had been itching to learn something different...something to set me apart in the industry....and that’s when I took my next chance...my next major leap you could say...I signed up for my first class in Natural Beaded Row Extensions. A class that I invested a large sum of money in. And while I was so scared it was a scam, and I didn’t know what would come of it...even my family thought I was crazy...but...in my gut I knew it was what I was meant to do.
As you all know and can probably relate too...right when things are going great...there always has to be something that will bring you down. Because...life. Without the lows...we wouldn’t truly appreciate the highs. And let me tell you, it was a low like I haven’t felt in a long time.
Literally weeks before I headed to California to take my class I was blindsided by someone who I thought for years was my best friend. Best friend as in, was in my wedding, Someone who I shared my inner most thoughts with, that I would never share with anyone else. Someone who I considered family. Someone whose family, I considered family. Because friends are the family we choose after all, right?
I don’t need to go into detail. All of us make mistakes. We all need to heal in our own way. We all have ways of dealing with things. I’m not perfect, in the past have I made mistakes? You better damn sure believe it! And the sad reality is, that no matter how you grow and change, and become who you are meant to be...those things don’t go away. And if you’re someone who holds resentment, and grudges, unfortunately you become bitter. And you cut people out of your life.
Well I was not cut, but erased from this persons life...which is pretty much the lowest point I’ve been at in a while. After being friends with someone for 7 years, for them to go out of their way to erase you, your mutual friends, and your family from their lives, is honestly one of the most hurtful things I have ever gone through. It honestly felt like a breakup. The only way I’ve moved past it, is just to continue to grow as a person. To not be bitter. And to wish that person well. It doesn’t do any good to yell and be angry. And say hurtful things...because you know what?
In this life we can’t control what happens to us, we can only control how we react to it.
After the “break up” I started to do even more soul searching than I ever have. Which had a lot to do with the strong tribe of women who I met through my class in Natural Beaded Rows. This class was not only an extension method, they made us dig deep inside ourselves, which was perfect timing for me, and the loss I had just endured. After a bunch of podcast’s, and self love books, I’ve found that I truly believe in the universe. I believe that what you put out there, genuinely...Not just for Facebook. Not just for Instagram. But when you actually start to make positive changes in your life...the universe rewards you.
Losing an old friend, while it was almost unbearable in the beginning...after it happened I realized...that person was only meant for a season of my life. They were a chapter in my life’s book. They taught me lessons, and helped show me a new path. And for that I thank them. Because if that didn’t happen, I don’t think I’d be who I am right now. In this very moment.
Because of them, there was room made for new relationships. The universe seriously works in mysterious ways. Because since all of that happened, I’ve made some of the strongest connections I’ve ever made with other people.
I’ve now been at Roots Salon for over a year, and the universe really has put some of the most amazing women in my life. From my coworkers, to my clients...they’re just meant to be in my life. It’s like the women that sit in my chair...the universe hand picked for me. The talented, strong, incredible women that I am lucky enough to meet, and build relationships with just... fit. It’s amazing to me how easy the connections are made. My clients and I just start talking...and all the little light bulbs start, and I know why they’re in my chair.
While this year had just as many highs, as it did lows...I wouldn’t change a thing. I am so thankful for each and every person who has touched my life this year. I thank each and every one of you for teaching me important lessons.
I would like to thank all those who have supported me, and who continue to support me.
I'm leaving 2018 thankful, and humbled...and walking into 2019 with a fire like I've never felt before.
The sky is the limit, and I can’t wait to see what 2019 brings.
Happy New Year!
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