Make Your Happiness A Priority
“It’s not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself, and to make your happiness a priority. It’s necessary.”
How many times a day do you do a billion things for other people? But then at the end of the day you still don’t feel fulfilled, and you’re still unhappy? Did you ever stop to think that maybe it’s because you’re not filling your own cup first?
We go through life thinking that the only way we’re going to be happy is if we’re making everyone else happy first...but...I hate to break it to you. That’s not how it works.
Time and time again I have catered to others. I’ve spent countless hours going to parties I didn’t want to be at, spending time with people I didn’t really want to be around, surrounding myself with people who honestly could care less about me.
But I stayed stuck in that endless cycle because I was scared of people not liking me...and the entire time this was going on...I couldn’t figure out why I wasn’t happy!
I wasn’t taking care of myself. I was burnt out from being the rock for so many people, that I didn’t have the energy to give back to MYSELF!
How can you pour into someone else’s cup...if yours is empty?
Think about that.
I want you to do this with me.
Sit down for 5 mins, maybe 10 however long it takes. And really think about all of the times you weren’t happy because you weren’t doing something you wanted to do. Because you wanted to be somewhere else. Or whatever the situation may be!
Now I want you to think about when the last time is that you did something for you...
Not for your kids.
Not for your friends.
Not for your family.
Whether it’s taking an hour out of the day to go get your nails done, or get a pedicure! Maybe it’s just taking a walk. Maybe it’s just going to get a coffee. Maybe it’s taking time to read that book that’s been sitting on your coffee table for months. Maybe it’s just getting a workout in! Whatever it is that you've been missing.
Now...I’m going to tell you to do something even CRAZIER! Yup!
I want you to look at your calendar, planner, or whatever you use. Now schedule an hour or two or three, for one day a week, for the next three weeks. Physically write it down. Block it off. Set a reminder in your phone. To some that doesn’t sound like a lot, but to others it’s scary because their schedules are so busy!
When you take time out for yourself, we tend to think that we’re being selfish. But in reality you’re not being selfish! Your are practicing self care, and more importantly...self love.
By taking time out for yourself your are filling your own cup. You’re bettering yourself, so that you can then pour that love into others!